Thought of the day; Plastics In Denial.

April 04, 2013
I try to empathise before I judge, and mostly I am half-successful---I may or may not understand the psyche of whoever is perplexing me but at least I can somewhat refrain from passing judgement. Or so I hope. Is having a silent opinion of someone's choices the same as judgement? If you don't express it, then it doesn't exist, right? So, is it by that same train of thought that women who've had 'work' done decide that if they deny it when asked, therefore it never happened?

Understandably, cosmetic surgery is a very personal choice and likewise a personal matter. And I believe that even if it is as clear as day that you've, say, had your nose shaved down to half it's size it is still very much your right to choose not to tell anyone, or even to not answer if someone openly asks you "Have you had work done?" Just be coy and change the subject. Freedom of speech allows anyone to openly speculate and likewise you're free to not respond.

But...what I'm having trouble understanding is individuals who go out of their way to condemn those who've had work done when they themselves have been under the knife. It's one thing to say "No, I did not get breast implants/liposuction/antlers attached to my forehead" when you did, and another thing altogether to say "No, I never would. I think people who get work done are better off spending that money on therapy to resolve their body issues." Or less eloquently "No OMG WTF I don't wanna look like a plastic freak."

Especially when said person is in the public eye, makes a living out of their opinions, among those of which is them openly expressing their desire to have their physical traits changed by the surgeon's scalpel. Hey, if you get a rush out of people hanging on to every word you say, just know that they'll also remember them. Especially the ones laced with hypocrisy.

Sure, your jaw-reduction surgery is as clear as day, your eye-shape changed dramatically overnight, those set of antlers on your forehead weren't there before (sorry, I've got antlers on my mind). And I adamantly believe you shouldn't have to announce it to the world if you don't feel comfortable about it. But...why are you going out of your way to malign and taunt those who have openly admitted to having work done?

Is it delusion? Self-denial? Do they think that by pretending it never happened, the (modified) elephant in the room will go away?

Or do they think that it gives them a 'moral trump-card' over those who have had cosmetic surgery done? Does it make you feel better, superior even, pretending the body parts you paid for were yours to begin with, and then going a step further and looking down your (rhinoplasty-ed) nose on those who've done the same?

If so, here's a widely-known fact---just because you deny it doesn't mean we don't know it. Not everyone is as short-sighted as you hope they are.

Mostly because they don't wear badly-made contact lenses.

Here's a truth, if I ever get any cosmetic surgery done, I may not openly talk about it and I may choose to not answer if anyone asks me about it.

But I would not assume the high-horse and give a lecture about how people who want smaller noses/bigger eyes/perkier bosoms have psychological problems and should just accept what they have.

Especially when said lecture is coming from someone who doesn't practise what they preach.

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PS. In case I wasn't clear enough, I have no problem with 'fake beauty'. I have a problem with 'fake morals'.

PPS. Not saying that I would get any work done anytime soon, but if these darn double-sided eyelid stickers don't work properly I might look into getting blepharoplasty. Stupid right eye is smaller than my left.

14 comments:

  1. you and your antlers! :D XD agree with fake morals!

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    1. Dear diary, I don't know why everyone is talking about me getting antler surgery. OMG I got these naturally okay!?!! I was sponsored this natural treatment that uses massage to stimulate natural bone growth. WTF people who get plastic surgery are so lame. MY ANTLERS ARE REAAAAAL

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  2. hahahahahaha xD thats ur ego?

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  3. Hi Jasiminne!

    Totally agree with your post, basically this is what we term Hypo to the crite.

    I am thinking Korea/Thailand for double eyelid surgery. But I am hesitating!

    Regards
    Michelle

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    1. A lot of my acquaintances go to Korea to have that done.
      My friends on the other hand just use eyelid stickers, they're not that bothered.
      Try using double-sided eyelid tape for 22 hours a day, 3 months straight. Some have gotten permanent eyelid creases that way.
      If it doesn't work then maybe consider surgery. But try the non-invasive options first.
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  4. I have been a silent reader of your blog. enjoy your writing especially this one :)

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  5. Yeah. I am totally with you on FAKE MORALS. Also gravely loathe people who are self-deluded and think it "cool" to be like one-half/one-quarter/one-eighth/two-thirds of every nationality imaginable. It's like, GET OVER YOURSELF ALREADY. You got surgery, you're not mixed blood. Stop with the denial. /eye roll x 1000000000

    On a side note, I keep going back and forth between having my nose and boobs done or just my nose. Lol.

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    1. Most of my best friends are mixed-raced and they don't make a big deal out of it. It's the ones who bang on and on about their 3 drops of 'Chemical X' ie. attribute their artificially enhanced looks to 1/64 of 'other' ancestry that have chips on their shoulders. I mean, by that same vague association I'm also considered mix-raced but I'm not going to delude myself that it's got everything to with how I look. "Maybe she's born with it, maybe it's Maybelline." Definitely Maybelline in my case.

      As for boobs, try going on the pill or wait till after you get pregnant and give birth. Those can totally change your bust.

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    2. You write with INCREDIBLE wit! You need to BE FAMOUS ALREADY ♥

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  6. speaking of this, i remember your illustration on dawn yang. it was so entertaining. :)

    many of those who have done it have accused me for doing it... not sure how do you describe this sort of mentality.

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    1. Haha! That drawing was so old, like 7 years ago?
      In my experience, the girls who accuse other girls of having work done are usually the ones are 'guilty' of the same and are trying to divert attention from themselves.
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  7. I knew this girl once who had her very chinito sepet eyes done - now they're large and almond-ny ; and her nose - it now has 3D effect.
    Whenever we go out, she'd comment on how every girl is ugly - there's always a comment on their faces.
    Once she shared a video on fb about how girls opting for plastic surgery and she deliberately commented on how "unsatisfied" that girl is on the video and how "fake" they all are - Forgetting that she herself, is one.
    I commented on her wall that she shouldn't have talked about the girl on the video like that as she must've understood what its like to be belittled/degraded/mocked for their looks.

    She got all pissed and now we are no longer friends.
    (oh on a related note, when her ex-bf saw her older pictures and asked her how come her eyes were rather slitty but they appear to be huge and doll like in real life , she said it was the sun causing her eyes to squint (for every picture, even indoors, she "squints" ? - i kid you not. )

    I have no qualms about people opting for plastic surgery for the betterment of their look, but it annoys me when they act like they're all original. Kudos to your post !

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    1. 'The sun causing her eyes to squint'? Hahahaha that is the poorest excuse of a lie I've heard all week.
      I'm all for the pursuit of self-betterment but people need to remember where they came from.
      Your ex-friend needs to stop treating everyone as a competitor in a race and let go of the hate. Otherwise the beauty of having 'improved' her lot in life has been wasted on her---seems like she's still seeing her own insecurity and imperfection reflected in everything (everyone) she looks at. x

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